Inspiration

The AU' and 'WOW' of living authentically

17 April 2025 by Nicole Loeffen

The “AU” of living authentically  I feel ‘AU’ myself, over and over again, when for a moment I don't succeed in being authentic, or more simply ‘just being myself’. When I adapt my behaviour socially to ‘how it is supposed to be’ while deep...

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I love switching around quickly

20 March 2025 by Nicole Loeffen

Because of unbearable pain, I couldn't do anything anymore. Totally dependent on others to ask for help for everything is not my cup of tea, so my brain kept switching non-stop to “what can I make possible?” the past few weeks....  The TV camera is already running on Mon Feb ...

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The 1-2-3-4 ups and downs that make me feel alive!

10 September 2024 by Nicole Loeffen

1 great holliday love, my prince next to the white horse, whom I met when I was 18 in Lipica (Slovenia) where I came to ride the white stallions he cared for at his stable. My prince has been struggling with severe residual symptoms of a spinal cord infarction since 2022, so we can only keep our spi...

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Without any shame for being happy

13 April 2024 by Nicole Loeffen

Tears of happiness and sadness battle with each other, washing my hay fever eyes clean. Richly the opposing emotions and fragments of thoughts flow through my head and body. Floating along on this, I write down freely everything that comes into my mind and goes through my mind, until the words on pa...

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Don't let anyone make you feel smaller than you are!

12 February 2024 by Nicole Loeffen

Don't let anyone make you feel smaller than you are! That sounds logical but doesn't always work in practice. In this personal story I take you through three work situations in which the other saw me as smaller than I was, and I tell you how I dealt with this in order to be seen as full. ...

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Backstage or in the spotlight?

8 December 2023 by Nicole Loeffen

'So, that one is coming in,' he says and then there remains a long but pleasant silence. He is visibly impressed by his own discovery and is still searching for words. We've only known each other for half an hour online but I sense connection. For me it is Friday afternoon and I do have ...

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Bucket list or career switch?

2 November 2023 by Nicole Loeffen

'Sounds like an exciting concept,' said Jelte in April during the 'Release the book in yourself' workshop as we stood together in the hallway leaning against a wall and sparring over my idea. That was the final boost I needed, I was unstoppable! The adventure began the very next w...

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'No one can only be strong,' is that true?

22 June 2023 by Nicole Loeffen

'This is so frustrating. Apparently others only see me as strong and confident and don't believe me when I show my deepest vulnerability.' I am chatting with my trainer Robin after his boxing workshop, in which I fought mostly against the fears of my past.  Everyone was looking f...

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Happiness in a strawberry

31 May 2023 by Nicole Loeffen

Somewhere halfway between the 200 meters from Nes 71 - the most delicious and cozy coffee shop in Haarlem and the surrounding area - and our house, I pause for a moment. With a fresh latte macchiato to go in my hand, I am on my way home on this Sunday morning to start writing my book - which is a...

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Letting go more, how (to do this)?

28 April 2023 by Nicole Loeffen

'When I read your biography you have done so much already,' Anne my coach says gently to me. She bends down a little and I look into her big eyes, in which I read warmth and compassion. We both hear the murmur of the rest of the group in the training room, but time seems to stand still fo...

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